I’ll be the first to admit that marriage isn’t easy. It’s hard. If it were easy everyone would have successful marriages and no one would ever be plagued with the painful thought of divorce. Sadly, divorce happens. Marriage is hard.
I’ve been married for almost 18 years and my husband is my best friend, but to tell you it’s been easy…psh..that would be a lie. We’ve been through a LOT in the past 17+ years. The good new is, we’ve made it, and instead of tearing us apart, all we’ve been through, has made us stronger.
Why is this not the case for some people? Why do we say “I do” on the happiest day of our lives and then a few years later, throw in the towel?
Well, because marriage is hard.
It’s a commitment that two people make to each other and sometimes one or both parties don’t follow through on their promises… Marriage is about covenant and promise.
God may be able to overlook our humaness and in His grace, see past our failures and sins towards Him,… as humans, we are not always able to do so.
A Christain marriage is supposed to be a symbol of Christ, loving His bride. There is an agreement, a promise and when that promise is broken, and hearts begin to harden and trust has been shattered…sometimes, it’s really hard, in our humaness, to ever go back.
I’m not advocating divorce. As a matter of fact, I think divorce is sad, and heartbreaking. Divorce is never a first option, or second, or a third. I think we should fight for our marriages and keep God in the center. I think we should forgive, we should seek council and we should stand in faith. I am an advocate of hope and miracles in marriages.
Divorce is not God’s plan.
Marriage sometimes goes beyond “hard” though. There are some situations that involve physical, emotional and mental abuse. There are situations where there has been infidelity, lying, cheating, drug use and the like and the covenant has already been broken. The trust has been destroyed over and over again, and it’s not coming back. The days are filled with heartache and loss.
That’s not God’s plan either.
God’s plan was for us to live a life of promise to each other. His plan was for our marriages to reflect the love that He has for us. Sadly, there are times when in our humaness, we are broken, disappointed and saddened by the void of promise and love.
Before you throw stones at someone contemplating divorce, please remember that walking away, begins in actions and attitudes and sometimes, the covenant promise has been broken and someone has been walked out on, long before they actually started walking away.
All I know for sure, is that in the face of difficult situations, we have hope. God’s plans for us are good. Period.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
That’s my two cents for the day.
Keep It Real.
Being Loved By Him, With You,
BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a happy wife, mother, and grandmother. She is a speaker, teacher, author and former pastor who is passionate about the Gospel of Grace. Her message is sincere, encouraging, simple and profound. Her words will set people free from condemnation and will help usher them into a deeper revelation and understanding of God’s great love.