No is Two Faced; you have to know how to SAY it,
how to RECEIVE it. This holds true in life and in business.
Setting Boundaries and saying ‘NO”
If you want to be successful and productive in your life and in your business you have to know how to say “NO” even when it’s hard. People will take and take from you if you don’t draw the line in the sand somewhere. Before you know it you’ll find yourself burned out and not accomplishing anything, all because this little two letter word can be hard to say.
Here are 3 things to remember if you struggle to tell others no.
1. Your time belongs to you. Who are you going to let determine what you do with it? If you never tell others no, then they are determining how you spend your time.
2. Your goals are just as important as everyone else’s. You will never reach your own goals in life if you are too busy being pulled in so many directions that nothing your doing really leads to anywhere.
3. If you care about people in your life and in your business the best “favor” you can do them is to let them do for themselves what they are able to do. Don’t be an enabler. Please, isn’t the only magic word 😉
So what about the other side of no, the side you have to be able to RECEIVE?
I have found in my Network Marketing business that hearing no can feel like swallowing glass if you don’t see it in the right perspective. If you take “NO” too personally it will HURT…OUCH!
I recently connected with a gentleman to get some additional information about a product that he markets. I thought my son might be interested and I wanted to show him what I had came across. To make a long story shorter, it turned out my son was not that interested, so I kindly let the gentleman know we would be passing for now, but I would keep him in mind for the future. Well, he didn’t take NO very well, he continued to push until I finally ended up ignoring his messages. It was clear that all he cared about was the green in my wallet, not my personal wants or needs. Don’t be “that guy” its not becoming and frankly it’s annoying.
Here are 3 things to remember about receiving a NO.
1. People are saying NO to your product or service not to YOU. Unless of course your treating them like dollar signs…then ya, they might be saying NO to you! Try to think of it this way, if you go to a restaurant and the waiter or waitress asks you if you want ketchup and you say no, they don’t get offended! You simply don’t want ketchup 😉
2. No, sometimes means “not right now” and if you care about the actual person, if and when what you have to offer suits them, they will come back to you as long as you didn’t try to pressure them the first time. When you pressure, you close the door for a return visit. They won’t come back, even if they do decide they want your product.
3. Don’t let people see that your disappointed, even if you are. When you wear your disappointment and frustration on your sleeve for all to see when you are told no, the other person will feel like your trying to make them feel bad for saying no to you and that they should somehow feel guilty…again you won’t get a return visit from them should they change their mind.
So what is the lesson here? learn to Say NO as often as necessary and Don’t take NO personally!! It’s just a part of life. Your going to say and hear no, just expect it to happen and learn to handle it gracefully.
P.S. I recently had a potential customer whom I had spoken with MONTHS ago send me a message wanting to know how to place an order. She stated that she just wasn’t ready before but valued all the information I had given her about weight loss and was now ready to join me and get healthy! Treat them right and when their ready they will come find you!
P.S.S There are still 10 more days to start your own It Works business and earn a $10,000 BONUS! I got one and I can show you how to do it too!
BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a former pastor, teacher and speaker turned Stay at Home, Networking Marketing, Homeschooling Mama with a passion for overall health and wellness. Daveda’s desire is to inspire others to live healthy spiritually, mentally, financially and physically.