“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather]
than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and
Changing those words to pink doesn’t make them any softer does it? I don’t know about you, but as a wife of almost 18 years…I’m guilty. I’ve come a long way since I met Jesus, but I remember the days when nothing my husband did was good enough. I remember thinking that in order for him to change I had to constantly be pointing out his issues and showing him what he needed to do.
Boy, I’m glad my husband didn’t do that to me, even though he certainly could have. Truth be told, he still could, but he doesn’t. And I don’t nag and find fault in him any longer either. Who wants to live like that? Yuck!
People do change though. We can’t change them but we sure can love them and let God work on the changes.
When I started asking God to change my heart and show me all of my husbands qualities and strengths, it really changed our marriage. It changed me. Instead of focusing on what was wrong I started focusing on what was right, and my words became encouraging and supportive. As a result our marriage grew stronger and 18 years later, we are still in love and best friends.
Love is more powerful than condemnation.
No one likes to be put down and beat up with words. People don’t change because we nag them to it or point out all their faults. True change only comes when God changes a persons heart. Many times the heart He starts with is yours.
You are a good and Godly Wife who has the ability to love your husband so deeply, that your love shines the face and approval of God right into His very being. When God starts working in the heart of your marriage, nothing can stop Him.
I would love to hear how this post impacted you! Leave a comment and share your thoughts. 😉
p.s. I talk further about this in my new book, The Power of Resting. It’s a life changing revelation. 😉
Being loved, by Him with you,
BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a happy wife, mother, and grandmother. She is a speaker, teacher, author and former pastor who is passionate about the Gospel of Grace. Her message is sincere, encouraging, simple and profound. Her words will set people free from condemnation and will help usher them into a deeper revelation and understanding of God’s great love.