Raising Teens, One Of Life’s Greatest Challenges
I love my children, I really, really do. I’ve got to be honest though, there are days I wish I could quit. I wish I could run away and not deal with whatever issue we are facing. There are days it all just seems too big, but guess what…parents that love their children, don’t get to run away. Nope, we gotta’ collect our thoughts, refocus, talk to Jesus, remember his promises and move forward. Nothing is too big for God.
As parents we have to remember that teens will fall. They will make mistakes in various ways and thats ok, it’s all part of growing up and learning who they are. Their experiences will teach them and mold them. However, there are times when they fall so hard that it feels like our world might shatter. They want to push the boundaries and throw respect out the window, and these are the times we have to stand firm, look to Jesus, set and stick to clear boundaries and love them unconditionally, while trusting that where we fall short, God is more than able.
I have three sons they are 23, 17 and 15. They are the joy of my life and have been the source of my greatest heartbreak at times. When you love your children, you want the very best for them. To watch them hurt and struggle, make poor choices and fall apart can break your heart and leave you fealing helpless. It can make you feal as if you have somehow failed as a parent.
Chances are, you haven’t failed. You’ve done the best you can with what you have to work with. I remember one day when my oldest was about 15 years old. He had gotten into some trouble and it caused a lot of stress and heartache in our family. I was in the shower one morning crying my eyes out and praying, asking God how and where I had failed so miserably as a parent, and thats when I clearly heard Him speak to my heart
“Daveda, I am the perfect Father, and my children chose to sin.”
Ahhh, revelation and freedom came into my heart in that moment! I realized that as parents we could do everything right, and our children will still make mistakes. We don’t have to feel condemned and miserable. We just have to continue to do the best we can, with what we have to work with, and stand on God’s promises.
We always have to remember that God created our children to love Him. Therefore, no matter where they may be, no matter what they may be going through, God has not forgotten about them. He is watching and waiting for the perfect moment to light the match that will ignite the fire inside of them. He will use this time in their lives to shape and mold them into the men and women He created them to be.
Every parent has room to grow, but instead of beating yourself up and crying yourself to sleep, focus on God’s ability, focus on His love, Focus on His strength and let Him love you and guide you through it all. Parenting teenagers is easier when we learn to trust God.
It will all be okay, because God loves our children more than we do. That doesn’t mean it will be easy. However, in the end, God wins.
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That’s my two cents for the day.
Keep It Real. –
Being Loved By Him, With You,
BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a happy wife, mother, and grandmother. She is a speaker, teacher, author and former pastor who is passionate about the Gospel of Grace. Her message is sincere, encouraging, simple and profound. Her words will set people free from condemnation and will help usher them into a deeper revelation and understanding of God’s great love.