Self Development Archives - God's Grace/ God's love/ by faith in Jesus

Are You Being True To Yourself?

January 23, 2014 by Daveda 3 Comments

There are those moments in life when you hear, read, or see something and it just speaks to you. That happened to me this week as I was reading though 1 Samuel.

The Lord was unhappy that the people insisted that a king be placed over them. They were not satisfied with having the Lord alone and even after being warned that the outcome would be bad for them, they still insisted.

It made me think…how often do we do this in our own lives without even realizing it? We follow after people trying to learn the next greatest truth. We follow after people looking how to be a huge success and make more money. We follow after people who can teach us how to manage our time better and be more productive. But here is my question – In our quest to gain more knowledge, skill and wisdom have we forgotten to seek after the ONE who can really teach us?

I’m all for learning from others who have gone before us, paved the way and can teach us how to become better. What I’m not for is thinking that this person has the one and ONLY way and looking to them for more wisdom than we seek God for.

You have to be true to yourself and you can’t do that if you are trying to change who you are and how you function because you have given another person the place of “king” in your life in some area or another.

This past year I set out to learn all about social media – and boy did I learn a lot! However, in the process I also lost a little bit of myself by trying to change things that didn’t really need to change in my life.

Here’s a small example – My family is a second/third shift, homeschooling family. I got so wrapped up in trying to be just like the other people I saw doing this social media thing the “right” way that I decide to become a morning person and be up super early so I could start being social.

I kept that early schedule for many, many months too. Here’s the problem, that doesn’t really work best for us. I treasure the late evenings I get to spend with my husband when he’s home, but I was falling asleep because I had gotten up too early. I was irritated with the kids because they were just ready to get going right about the time I wanted to go run errands. I was cranky too, when evening came around, everyone was full of steam…except for me.

I was honestly confused as to why I felt so unsatisfied and frustrated. Why, Lord, Why???????

The Lord loves me and He shows me truth when I ask Him.

I was wanting a king other than him to show me what to do and how my life was supposed to look. I looked to other people and followed their ways instead of following after and seeking the wisdom of the one who knows me best.

I can’t tell you how much peace I have now. I am back on my old schedule and happier than ever. According to some, I stay up too late and sleep in too late, but you know what – This is what works for me and I feel great about it!

You have NO ONE else to please. You don’t have to change to fit every detail that works for other people. Be open and teachable of course, but learn what to receive for yourself and what to leave on the table.

There should only be ONE King in your life – His name is Jesus.

That’s my two cents for the day.

Keep It Real

Being Loved By Him, With You –

Daveda

BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a happy wife, mother, and grandmother. She is a speaker, teacher, author and former pastor who is passionate about the Gospel of Grace. Her message is sincere, encouraging, simple and profound. Her words will set people free from condemnation and will help usher them into a deeper revelation and understanding of God’s great love.

4 Ways To Build Your Confidence Through Faith

August 22, 2013 by Daveda 1 Comment

C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E

It’s not meant to be a four letter word…yet when many people think of confidence they start to cringe on the inside and shrink as a person. Many of us have been programmed in our lives to compare ourselves to others and try to measure up to societies standards in order to feel that we have worth and value but, that was never God’s plan for you. God’s plan was for you to find your confidence in who He created you to be. He planned for you to come alive in your natural gifts, strengths and abilities and through that you would walk in confidence.

Here are 4 truths that will set you FREE to be confident

1. Who you are and what you are called to do are inseparable. Don’t try to do something in your life that doesn’t fit WHO you are and always bring yourself into whatever it is that you are doing. Never try to be someone you’re not. If you’re a round peg don’t try to fit into a square hole and try to be good at the same things your family or friends are good at. You’ll lose confidence. Not to say you shouldn’t try new things, just don’t try to BE someone else when doing them. Walk in who YOU ARE!

2. Stop looking at all of your faults and flaws and thinking that THAT is what defines you. It’s not. You are hidden in Christ Jesus and THAT is what defines you!

3. Surround yourself with people who believe in you! If you are filling your life with people who put you down and are not encouraging in anyway, you need to separate yourself from the negativity. Set clear boundaries around what you will and will not tolerate in your life.

4. Fill your heart and mind with the TRUTH about who you are in Christ. God’s message of Grace and Truth came in the form of Jesus. You are loved, favored, blessed and anointed because of HIM! The good news is that your worth, value and confidence does not have to based on how good you think you are, but on how good Jesus is!

Whatever it is that you are doing in your life do it knowing that there is only one you! Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box and follow the beat of your own drum! YOU don’t have to be just like anyone else. As a matter of fact you’re NOT SUPPOSED to be just like anyone else!

YOU have a gift to give to all the people God has placed inside your sphere of influence. It’s a gift no one else can give. It’s YOU!

If you want more confidence in your work from home biz come on over here to my 14 Tips post. I have a FREE gift for you!

BIO: Daveda Schmidlin is a former pastor, teacher and speaker turned Stay at Home, Networking Marketing, Homeschooling Mama with a passion for overall health and wellness. Daveda has build a successful, home based business with It Works! Global and her desire is to inspire others to live healthy spiritually, mentally, financially and physically.

3 Self Development Titles You MUST Read

August 5, 2013 by Daveda 5 Comments

Self Development

I’m an avid reader! I am constantly reading something for the purpose of self development. I do sometimes read a fictional book, but usually it’s one that has a self development or spiritual lesson attached to it.

we can learn so much and grow as people from reading the lessons and insight others have to share with us! No matter how old you are you’re NEVER to old for continued self development and growing into the person God created you to be! I believe this is one very important key to success. NEVER stop learning and applying what you learn.

Here are 3 books that I highly recommend.

1. Eat that Frog by Brian Tracy – If you have a problem with procrastination this is the book for you.

2. Boundaries by Townsend & Cloud – Life changing book that will help anyone have more freedom in their lives and in their business by setting and sticking to clear boundaries.

3. A Divine Invitation by Steve McVey – The love of God will change a person inside and out. Receive a deeper revelation of God’s love for YOU as you read through the pages.

Improving yourself through reading and applying what you read will greatly influence your life in so many ways! Every great leader knows and applies this truth. I hope these titles help you on your journey to greater self development! All of these titles can be found on amazon.com.

I recently posted an article on leadership entitled 9 Tips To Becoming A Great leader come on over and take a look!